QUOTES

The world is not your world not until when you make your world.

If you don’t have a picture you can’t have a future.

If you are not in your place you can be displaced.

If God ceased to speak everything ceased to live.

The life of God is the life of man.

If you cannot see beyond, you cannot go beyond.

What you become is what you believe. And what you believe is what you receive

The more you are informed the more you are transformed.

In relationship, it is purpose before pleasure.

Whatever cannot make you can break you.

If you cannot see, you cannot stand.

What you see is what keeps you moving. Vision

Greatness does not start from the outside it starts from the inside.

What makes you is your thought.

Success in life is a combination of relationships.

You are the only one who can determine what drives you.

The future you cannot picture, you cannot feature.

What makes you stand out is your value.

The only difference between the rich and the poor is what they see and how they see. perspective

If you can read, you can lead.

You must first become a seeker before you can become a speaker.

It is the content that promotes the container.

Man needs God to survive but God does not need man to survive.

Your arrival speaks of your survival.

If you cannot seek, you cannot speak.

If you cannot tolerate, you cannot relate.

To be God conscious is to be self conscious.

When you have a positive thought, you have a positive life.

In relationship, it is not love that sustains it, first foundation is self knowledge. Knowing who you are before who you want.

If you know who you are, you’ll know what you need.

What you see inside is what you become outside.

Lovers are givers.

If you can perceive, you can receive.

You first become a giver, then a receiver.

If you cannot see what God has placed inside me you may likely abuse me.

It is the book you read that determines your look.

The journey you cannot see you cannot end.

You cannot love a gift more than the giver.

If God can wake you up, He can keep you up.

If you cannot be a thinker, you ultimately become a stinker.

God can break you to make you.

Change will come when there is a change in leadership. Organisation principle.

You can never be on a mission without vision.

When you feel good on the inside, you look good on the outside.

God’s movement is God’s presence, God’s presence Is God’s power.

If you don’t do it right, you cannot get it right.

Every organisation growth is determines by the employee’s growth.

>Get hincyte and be hygnite.

Preparation before promotion.

For you to do more, you have to become more.

Every inspiration is the mother of manifestation.

Knowledge is to learn and know.

You need to deal with the inside to be better on the outside.

If you feel bad on the inside you’ll feel bad on the outside.

The world is not your world not until when you make your world.

If you don’t have a picture you can’t have a future.

"OKUN IFE"

“A break of heart is not a break of life”

Hi friends, It gives me great delight to share with you in a moment, a true life story of Mac, who got into a relationship with a damsel called Mag. I am confident that at the end of this write up you will have a few things to learn not by default anyway. Laugh! A young man called Mac started a short-lived romantic and envied relationship with a young and descent lady, called Mag in the city of Lagos, Nigeria. But this eight months mellifluous affair ended just some weeks ago.
“The best divorce is the one you get before you get married”

I am about to express my sincere mind and my experience in a broken relationship. Hum! Do we still have a life after a break up? Share my heart trauma.
The truth is that, a break up is one of the toughest things you’ll ever experience. Breaking up from an unhealthy relationship even hurts. And research proved that, the person who initiates a break up can suffer more unhappiness than the person who is being rejected. Research shows fifty one percent of breakups are initiated by the woman and forty two percent by the man.

I think sometimes, a breakup helps the destiny of both party, especially in an unhealthy relationship, but the truth remains that breaking up can be the kindest cruelty, it’s going to be painful for both of you, however, the best thing you can do for an unhealthy relationship is call it off.
“A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage”
Sincerely speaking, Mac relationship with Mag was not an unhealthy one from the beginning. What then is the challenge? Read the brief story.
“A ring doesn’t make a lady sincere to you”
After a few months of relationship, Mac engaged Mag with the agreement on both side to make it husband and wife. But suddenly, Mag changed in behavior and decided not to see Mac for any reason. Knowing that, Mag has started hanging out with a male friend and became attached emotionally but before Mac could realize it, a quit letter had already been prepared. Is it that Mac is not caring enough, or may be is not man enough, but mag had confess several times to Mac, as the best man she has ever come across. But the Yoruba adage will say, “aja to ba ma sonu, ko ni gbo fere olode.
”‘’When you are not sincere in relationship, you cannot be sincere in marriage’’

Eventually, and without any offence, Mag called Mac and said in a loud voice, I want a breakup. A shock! Mac thought it was a joke, not until over two months of plead by Mac, still Mag decision won’t change. What then is her reason for a breakup, she said, ‘I am not in love with you Mac, does it really shocked you? I got some facts and realize she’s seriously emotionally attached to another guy and started dating him, oh what a pity! You’ll say. How did Mac feel? Hum

It is fair to say that, breaking up relationship even a bad one, is ever free from pain for either person, be you the breaker or the breakee, you can expect to suffer loss and expect to grieve, but not in the case of Mag. What a wicked lady you think? Mac, how can someone be so present in your life one moment and gone the next, so surprised that affection we shared together suddenly disappear.
“Attention grows affection”

However, even in pain I have discovered a few reasons why some stay in an unhealthy relationship; can I share few with you? Thanks for given me your time, this is where you need to learn!!!

REASON 1: Some stays in a relationship because of time and energy (resources) invested. I think that makes them hang onto an unhealthy relationship.
REASON 2: I can make him or her change. Trust me you can’t change what you have not created.
REASON 3: God said it. (Will). Double check, if God said it then what is God saying now? And however, it takes two to make it happen. We can’t force things to be.
REASON 4: Social Pressure. You want to belong.
REASON 5: No Alternative. Another reason some stay in an unhealthy relationship is because they don’t have an alternative.

“Every broken heart has a heartbreaker”
Even while you want to breakup, why not talk to a confidant, don’t keep it to yourself if the idea is rolling around your head, and while do you have to do it when you are in love with another person, it ‘s a jilt and double dating. Call it unfaithful partner.

But also if you’ll have to break, you don’t have to put it off, face it. I realize the longer you put it off, the more pain you cause. Really, I advice you don’t enter a conspiracy of silence when it comes to your feelings, but make it a clean breakup. I think the best approach is to be honest and direct, I hope you will agree with me that being honest is not the same as being brutal. You can still be gentle if you are going to make a clean breakup. Never do it to molest the other person. Someone may want to know what I did after a breakup. Just a few things! Some facts to observe!!!

FACT 1: I face reality. I mean I have to move on, and admit the relationship is over. Most times if you don’t admit denial you may have to lose your dignity and people who don’t admit it’s over will sacrifice their self respect.
“If you don’t have a self awareness, a denial may let you lose your self esteem”

FACT 2: I stop blaming myself. Self blame will do nothing to help you learn from mistakes and become a better person.

FACT 3: I never think of revenge.

FACT 4: Beware of Rebounding. Research shows that people on the rebound tend to fall in love with people who will soon reject them.

Personal opinion, I think ladies initiate breakups more than guys do and feel in more control of the situation, reason been that they have more friends ‘male’ to help them deal with distress after the breakup. Personal experience as I said.
As part of my experience and discovery, can I just mention few of those things I went through after and during the breakup? Sit right and learn!!!

PHAZE 1: DENIAL. Just at this point you are going to feel rejected. But don’t see less of who you are.

PHAZE 2: BARGAINING. No false expectation. Don’t negotiate within you, coming back or not. Just move on.

PHAZE 3: DEPRESSION. You deserve to feel depressed after losing someone you truly love. But don’t stay too long. Move on with your life.

PHAZE 4: ACCEPTACE. According to Robert Frost, acceptance comes when you bow to the end of a love, when we recognize its season has passed.

And after the whole scenario, I thought my heart was going to break in pieces, I was very upset and disappointed, couldn’t eat for days, got deeply depressed and feel no one could have convinced me I would ever get over Mag, but in time I did and with the help of my mentor, Pastor Tunji Babajide, the one who could not hide the truth from me, and also Pastor Olumide Omojuyigbe for been so blunt and real.

Dear Friend, you may want to ask, what are you suppose to do after a breakup. It’s alright to get depress but don’t stay long, just get up and move on with your life. This is what I learned, if somebody want to walk out of your life, LET THEM GO!!! Especially, in a situation whereby you have tried to be the best you can be. Not everybody that comes into your life have come to stay, some people come in your life for a life time, and some come for season, but you have to differentiate, you can always mess up when you mix -up seasonal people with life time expectation. You can’t get married with someone you are supposed to be with for a season, trouble!!! Wahala!!!

Illustration. I have seen everybody coming into my life like a category of a tree. Some people are like the leaves, they’re never stable during storm, and most people in our society are like that. And some people are like a branch on a tree, they make you think they are good friends, just be careful because they’ll fool you, and the moment you step on them, they breakup and leave you. But if you find two or three people in your life like the root at the bottom of a tree, you are blessed and celebrate them.
“Too many friends don’t make you too much”

A tree can have many leaves but a few roots make it stand, too many friends don’t make you too much. I really appreciate the two brothers that stood by me like the root, Obafemi Samuel & Olabode Matthew; Seye Jeff, you remain my best friend. I love you guys more than silver and gold. And also to my precious aunt, Kehinde Adebayo…. You deserve the best ma! lol

I must confess that I never regret knowing Mag, and I never took it personal, it was just an event. She taught me what I never knew, she showed me what I couldn’t have seen, and she made me believe in my dream. Until I get to see you on this side of the world or the other side of the world, in a seminar or maybe I’ll come and speak for a company that you work for some day, I hope I get a chance to meet you, till then. I wish you the best Mag !!!

“Beauty on the outside is not equal beauty on the inside”

You may have one or two questions to ask me, please feel free; +2348030803499. Or mail me at hincyt@gmail.com; face book ID; Mclawrence Whurley Joseph
It’s my honor to share a few thoughts and experience with you. And I hope you have desire to make things right in your relationship. It doesn’t matter who you are, not even where you’ve been, it doesn’t matter what you’ve done, it doesn’t matter how many times you have fallen, you can get up and start all over again, if you’ll have to.

hincyte

PARADIGM SHIFT!!!

Charles Kettering says and I quote, “the opportunities of a man are limited only by his imagination.” And the law of substitution states, “your mind can hold only one thought at a time, positive or negative.” But the law of habit says, “Any thought or action that you repeat over and over will eventually become a new habit.” So I say, a success or failure, your thoughts determine your whole life.

"All that a man achieves and all that he fails to achieve
is the direct result of his own thoughts." - James Allen

Your outer world is very much a mirror image of your inner world. What is going on outside of you is a reflection of what is going on the inside. Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life. Remember, what the mind can conceive the mind can achieve. If you want a different result in your life, all you have to do is to change your thought, or maybe you want to change your life then change your thoughts.

"The conventional wisdom of the world is, "I'll believe it when I see it."
One of the greatest favors you can do the world is to grow a positive mindset. You need to do the very thing you think you cannot do. I agree that no one is better than you, if you can think success, then you’ll become success. Nature treats everyone alike, and nature plays no favorites. Aristotle wrote, “Whatever is impressed is expressed,” you cannot express what you are not inside on the outside. Your expression inside is your reflection outside. Your outer world corresponds to your inner world, and overtime, what happens to you depends to a degree on what happen inside you. Thought is quite literally the often overlooked seed that shapes YOUR external world.

Change Your Thoughts, And You Will Change Your World!
There is no doubt sir, that your external experience is a reflection of your internal thought. I have said all of these to say that your subconscious mind is enormously power. You cannot be small on the inside and you expect to be big on the outside. You are nothing but a reflection of your thought. Your thought is who you are. Have you ever given much "thought" with regard to what your thoughts are, where they come from or the power they have in molding and shaping your life?
You are not what people think you are, you are a perfect picture of your thought, you are the only architect of your future, and if it doesn’t look great inside it cannot be great on the outside. Your thought becomes you, and you become thoughts. Change your thought and you change your life. Peace within!!!

"The Average Human Thinks 60,000 Thoughts per Day"
Only hungry minds grow!!!
Oluwole Joseph
hincyt.gmail.com
+2348030803499

BE WISE!!!

Wisdom is a gift from God and a value to acquire. By biblical prescription, an unabated fear of God can propel the effusion and acquisition of wisdom. Moreover, you cannot get wisdom without instruction. Wisdom then I say, is a product of knowledge plus understanding. Knowledge is what you know based on acquired information, but understanding is the comprehension of the information you have acquired, it is the expression of knowledge. Undeniably, you can be delivered by what you know and be oppressed by what you don’t know; likewise, you can be transformed by what you know and be deformed by what you don’t know. The fear of God is what gives birth to wisdom, which implies that we can express our fear for God by simply obeying His instructions. In this context, the Hebrew word for wisdom is “sekel”, meaning INSIGHT.

A revelator once said, “The greatest acceleration a man can ever experience is by personal revelation.” Take note that what is revealed to you is what is restored to you. This then clearly elucidates the fact that the difference between the fool and the wise is their acquisition and application of knowledge; the inability of a fool to possess the intrinsic value of a wise man is what places him in his own class. Likewise, the difference between an adult and a toddler is knowledge, which further establish the fact that a man can be “of age” and still be “of fool,” you can be at forty and still be a dummy, you may look like an adult on the inside but live as a kid on the inside. Your internal value is what controls your external conducts; and your capacity to deliver is a dependent factor on your capacity to receive.

And I personally believe that wisdom is not given by age, neither is it inherent by race, but it is given by grace. Mind you, your age or race does not determine your grace. But your grace determines your race.

More so, it feels good to be instructed by God than to be corrected by Him. Correction is an alternative solution to failure. To be corrected by God is as a result of failure to heed to instruction. Instructions give way to direction, and directions lead to the right destination. God’s intent is to counsel, guide and instruct man in the way he should go. However, when a man rejects God’s instruction, he rejects God’s direction, and to reject God’s direction is to face destruction.

According to Fela Durotoye, one of Africa’s most sought after speaker, “you will always pay people for what you don’t know, but people will only pay you for what you know.” In addition, to become a fool is to despise instruction and correction. The old book says and I quote, “my son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother.” Jokingly speaking, for you to go far in life, you need a father (instruction), but for you to know more you need a mother (law). You cannot have a father without a mother, and the more you know the farther you go.

In conclusion, it is good to be aware, it is better to be informed, but it is best to be wise. Exploit thrives on the wings of decision, and quality decision is a function of wisdom. Knowledge get you informed, but wisdom makes you relevant. Knowledge keeps you, but wisdom makes you. Pursue knowledge, embrace understanding, but in all thy getting, get Wisdom!!!
Sekel

Oluwole Joseph
+2348030803499
hincyt@gmail.com

POSITIVE THINKING (part 1)

The basic idea of this article is to demonstrate how our thoughts, attitude and beliefs make up our life. It is not a magic but a principle, that no individual can be better than his or her thought. Everyone can move from failure to success and from lack to abundance by their thought. Your thought is who you are, and who you are is as a result of your thought. We all grow at the pace of our thought, by the virtue of our thought we are the maker of ourselves. Whatever you are now is as a result of who you are on the inside.

The ancient book says, “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he.” Literally, a man becomes his thought. Your thought is a reflection of your inner man; it is a reflection of who you are on the inside, which ultimately forms your character. If you really want to change you; first, let there be a change on your inside, because what you see on the inside, is the total sum of what you are on the outsides.
According to the words of Obafemi, One of Africa’s foremost speakers, “Life is not measured per year, it is measured per second. But the quality of life is not measured per second, it is measured per thought.”

The aphorism “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, nor my ways your ways.’’ No one can rise above the level of his or her thought, Frankly speaking, the quality of the thought that flow through your mind determines the quality of your life. Whatever we become is first created in our mind. I strongly believe that the only difference between the poor and the rich is the state of their mind. Every word that a man pronounces is a product of his thought. I think words are fruits that grow out of our thoughts.

I am yet to discover a man that succeeded without thinking. In thought man builds himself, and in the same way man destroys himself. We are the master of our thought, and the molder of our character, and the one who determines our destiny. The law of thought state that to change you, you must first change your thought.

MAKING GREAT DECISION

It is crucial for every individual to understand that your tomorrow is no better than the decisions you are making today. How then do you make decisions without regret? Life is too short for regrets, and that’s why it’s so important for you to know who you are, and what is important to you. Though regrets are meant to teach us what to do better next time, but that is if second chance will permit us.

‘’Nothing is more difficult, and therefore more precious than to be able to decide’’
Napoleon Bonaparte

The English new dictionary defines decision as a conclusion reached after consideration. Frankly speaking, your future is as strong as the decisions that precede it. You cannot make great decision if you do not take seriously the consequences of that decision and base your decision on thorough information.

I think, “the journey of a thousand miles begins with a decision and then a step.” Great destiny is a function of great decisions; we all choose our joy & sorrow long before we experience them. Your present is the total sum of the accumulated effects of the decisions you have made in the past, and your future will be a reflection of your present decisions. Your decision is what makes your destiny. We are all beings of destiny, but products of decision. The bottom line is that we make decisions and decisions make us. Any decision that cannot make you will ultimately destroy you; that cannot increase you will undoubtedly decrease you. We make decisions based on the information that is available to us; and information we say brings transformation.

‘’Every transformation is as a result of your information.’’

Mistakes, in human are inevitable, but can be avoided or reduced in effect. And in order for you to increase your chances of being effective at decision making, I would like to introduce to you a resplendent model called FASTIN.

FASTIN is simply the guide you use when trying to gather the information for your profile. Is universal; it is built on the concept of asking more and acting well, rather than the conventional approach of thinking less and acting more. It emphasizes the fact that every decision you will take requires anticipation before action, that asking precedes acting. FASTIN should be a lifestyle of every decision makers and not just a mere tool. Remember, the power belongs to those who ask the right questions in order to avoid making wrong decisions.

‘’Question your Question.’’

FASTIN speaks the language of the mind, and for FASTIN to be effective you have to be able to ask question before taking steps.

F- Facts not Opinion
A-Ask the right & best source
S-See in Systems
T-Think and Act the best way
I-Inquire, Expect, Prepare, Move
N-Never Assume

Find the facts, not opinions. Facts rule the lives of the successful people. They do all to ensure they have all the relevant data before making decisions. As the saying goes ‘’ The Facts Never Lie.’’ Getting a poor opinion is like poor information which gives you poor decision. You can’t make great decision with poor information. Individuals have been misguided by the opinions of other people. Making great decision demand that you gather all the facts, not some facts, it is a discipline trait that must be learn and adopted continuously.

Ask the right and best source. Information is the difference between failure and success, and where you get that information is just as important as the information itself. If information is what is used to make decisions, then that individual who wants to use the information must make sure that information is gotten from the right and best source.

See in systems. This is the ability to understand that nothing in life or work is isolated, everything and anything is connected to a series of things, which makes a whole thing.

Think and Act the Best Way. It is the ability to make decisions based on rationalizing and not on emotions, is a key to effective living.
Inquire, Expect, Prepare, Move. Everything human beings have a pattern and it is advisable to know the behavior pattern of anyone or anything before engaging in relationships or even business.

''Whenever you see a successful business,
someone once made a courageous decision.'' Peter Drucker

Never Assume.

Certainty in life is the key. The key formula of certainty is cross checking things over and over again. In relationship it means that trust has to be earned. Leaving things to chance could be dangerous, believing all is well, without taking the time to make sure that things are in place.

The entirety of this write-up is focused on the introduction and application of this concept. This concept promises to yield positive result and en masse success based on the fact that it is not built on theoretical notions, but on empirical evidences by great successful individuals and corporations all over the world that have embraced its application and accuracy.

Joseph Oluwole
+2348030803499
hincyte

PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT!!!

At the risk of sounding like a Grumpy Old Man, and with near certainty that this post will be roasted by many who read it, I am about to make the case that there is such a thing as Personal Development. I define Personal development as a process that produces personal change and progress. And It starts from within. Whatsoever you must become outside is as a result of what you are on the inside. Every individual is the result or product of their thoughts. I am not confused to say that you cannot grow beyond your thoughts. The ancient writings say “as a man thinks in his heart so is he’’. Bottom line; you cannot be better than your thoughts and values.
God created everyone to grow on a daily basis, man is not supposed to be stagnant or static. When you don’t grow nothing grows around you; your environment and you will improve only as a result of your efforts to improve on yourself, when you improve things around you improve. Our world is created in such way that nothing moves if you don’t move.
Every individual’s growth is a result of their choices, you can choose to learn and become the person you aspire to be, or you can choose to hesitate, be stagnant and doubtful but remember that when you live in fear you actually live in mediocrity. Everyone is responsible for his or her improvements and success as well as your frustrations and lack of progress.
Personal development will only happen when you have come to a state of discovery, however it’s my discovery that, there would never be personal development without first personal discovery; it’s your discovery that determines your recovery, whatever you discover you recover. It is being before doing. You cannot do without first being. Your being is what activates your doing.
And how do you become before doing, I am going to discuss that in the next chapter and before I do that I want to make us understand that personal development will happen when you make a firm decision to understand yourself, improve your awareness, work on your attitude, believe in yourself and your potentials, develop your skills, set your goals and begin with the end in mind.
I know you’ll want to ask a question like where and how do you start!
I’ll say first that you need to have self discovery, then self development plan which is workable system for your personal development and growth. But don’t forget always take continuous actions.
You need to know in which direction you want to go so as to help you work on yourself, do all that you can do and always do your best while at it. This is what I always refer to as self help.

Ask yourself these few questions:
Do you like where you are and what you have become?
-Have you ever wished that your life was better?
-Is your relationship with others working the way you want it to be?
-Are you producing the results that you want?
-What makes you feel good?
-Why do you do what you do?
-What have you been telling yourself about you?
-How do you go from here to where you want to be?
-How much time do you spend with yourself?
When you begin to ask yourself these questions, you will start looking for the answers within you. Because life will ask you questions, and your answers must always come from within. Your journey to discover yourself, improve and grow will begin as you find answers to these questions.
No one but you can take that decision and choice to move from where you are to where you desire to be, and I think one of the most important things you can do to turn your situation around is to shift your perception by looking at the positive aspects of where you are. Why? Your perception is your reality. Never forget this that, genuine discovery is an attitude of the heart. It’s an attitude that affects the entire life of every individual and controls his or her responses to life.
It’s your thoughts that birth your beliefs, your beliefs make your convictions, your convictions make your attitude, your attitude controls your perception, and your perception dictates your behavior. I think your life is what you think it should be. However genuine discovery is not a result of memorizing formulas, or learning skills, not also imitating someone or techniques. It is an attitude of the heart. It is the real you from the inside.
Your attitude is what dictates your responses to the present and which determines the quality of your future. And if you do not discover yourself, how do you know your attitude and how to control it. You are your attitude, and your attitude is you, control your attitude before it controls you. Attitude is what creates your world, it’s what designs your destiny; it’s a determinant of your success or failure in any life’s venture. It can make beauty ugly, and skillful without results.
Dr. Myles Munroe defines attitude as ‘’the mind-set or mental conditioning that determines our interpretation of and response to our environments.’’ It is our way of thinking. In essence your attitude is the manifestation of who you think you are. And who you are is the real person within you.
You need to understand who you are and what you are meant to be which are the keys to fulfilling your purpose for existence in life. Whatsoever you see on the inside is what you become on the outside, if you see it in your mind, you will hold it in your hand; and by it, I mean the future. The way is not in the sky, the way is in the heart, the real you is in your heart. Everything you see happening is the consequence of that which you are within.
We cannot teach people personal development principles but we can only help them discover it within themselves, I challenge you to discover the real you from within you and manifest your potentials on earth.

hincyte
Lawrence Oluwole Joseph
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