The absence of value is more dangerous than the presence of love. Love is not the only ingredient that steers relationship to success, I have always believed in relationships where both partners have values to offer, what you have is what makes you relevant and important to your partner.
Life is more important than staying with someone that cannot
increase your value worth, whoever cannot make you better will ultimately make
you bitter. Marry someone who can nourish you not someone who will punish you
with his or her valueless life.
Love doesn’t grow without nutrients and one of the
nutrients of love growth is value, what you are able to bring in. Dolefully,
many people step into relationship without any known purpose of doing so, as
popularly quoted "abuse is inevitable when the purpose of a thing is not
known"; so you can imagine the chaos ready to happen in any purposeless
relationship.
Picture this; a
confused man dates a confused woman, gets engaged and ultimately gets married,
confused babies are ultimately the result. This makes the whole family a
confused family. What a tragedy!
You don’t have to accept a man’s proposal when you are
confused; you’ll rather be convinced about the future, don’t make decision
based on assumption but on fact. I have realized that the only dangerous brand
of poverty that exists in relationships today is poverty of character, too many
people confuse having value with having things that are valuable. Assets,
luxurious liabilities, swags and smooth talking does not equal great values
most of the time, you need to see beyond the ordinary!
You don’t go for a car-man; go for a
character-man.
You may be dating a man with television and he’s out of
vision, are you dating a lady of beauty and she’s out of brain? not all
beautiful women are virtuous women. Don’t date for pleasure, date for purpose,
date for assignment not just assessment, if you can assess his physical ability
make sure you can assess his mental ability and spiritual ability. Marry a
problem solver not a problem creator.
There is a queen in
you so stop dating a slave, you belong to the palace. Demand for your place and
stay in your place. Don’t look for a man for what he drives; look for what
drives a man.
A good test for your
relationship is to ask yourself has this person helped me become a better
person? Both parties must be willing to provide for each other, this goes
beyond the physical things. I want to challenge you to be the best that
attracts the best.
Thank you.
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