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Thursday, January 31, 2013

WHAT A LADY SHOULD NEVER SAY TO A GUY!!!



WHAT A LADY SHOULD NEVER SAY TO A GUY!!!

Have you ever seen your guy’s expression change and go from happy eyes to glassy eyes in a flash?
You’ve probably said something you really shouldn’t have. A few points on what you shouldn't say to your guy. Avoid it completely.

So the next time you’re with your boyfriend or a guy friend, remember to avoid making him feel less like a man.

What you shouldn't say?

1. Your friend is so charming!
Did you meet a new friend of his who looks gorgeous or is so charming you felt your pants slipping down by itself? Just don’t tell your guy anything about it, especially if you haven’t complimented your guy about the same trait earlier.

 2. Why don’t you accept that you’ve failed?
Guys are pretty competitive when it comes to succeeding, especially when it comes to work or earning more money. If your boyfriend’s trying something new and you see him failing miserably, don’t tell him that straight to his face.


3. My ex did it, why can’t you?
Guys hate being compared, especially with your exes.You don't have to mention your ex, its your past so let it go.

4. Can you introduce me to that guy?
This is definitely dangerous grounds. Unless you’re asking your boyfriend to introduce you to a celebrity friend of his, never tell a guy this line.

5. What the hell is wrong with you, you idiot?
 Don’t ever yell at him or put him down in front of his friends or family. If you ever yell at a guy in public or in front of others, you’ll emasculate him and he’ll spend a lot of time away from you, plotting ways to get even with you for humiliating him.

To be continued...

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

GREATER THAN LOVE





The absence of value is more dangerous than the presence of love. Love is not the only ingredient that steers relationship to success, I have always believed in relationships where both partners have values to offer, what you have is what makes you relevant and important to your partner.
Life is more important than staying with someone that cannot increase your value worth, whoever cannot make you better will ultimately make you bitter. Marry someone who can nourish you not someone who will punish you with his or her valueless life.

Love doesn’t grow without nutrients and one of the nutrients of love growth is value, what you are able to bring in. Dolefully, many people step into relationship without any known purpose of doing so, as popularly quoted "abuse is inevitable when the purpose of a thing is not known"; so you can imagine the chaos ready to happen in any purposeless relationship.

Picture this; a confused man dates a confused woman, gets engaged and ultimately gets married, confused babies are ultimately the result. This makes the whole family a confused family. What a tragedy!

You don’t have to accept a man’s proposal when you are confused; you’ll rather be convinced about the future, don’t make decision based on assumption but on fact. I have realized that the only dangerous brand of poverty that exists in relationships today is poverty of character, too many people confuse having value with having things that are valuable. Assets, luxurious liabilities, swags and smooth talking does not equal great values most of the time, you need to see beyond the ordinary! 

 You don’t go for a car-man; go for a character-man.

You may be dating a man with television and he’s out of vision, are you dating a lady of beauty and she’s out of brain? not all beautiful women are virtuous women. Don’t date for pleasure, date for purpose, date for assignment not just assessment, if you can assess his physical ability make sure you can assess his mental ability and spiritual ability. Marry a problem solver not a problem creator.

There is a queen in you so stop dating a slave, you belong to the palace. Demand for your place and stay in your place. Don’t look for a man for what he drives; look for what drives a man.
A good test for your relationship is to ask yourself has this person helped me become a better person? Both parties must be willing to provide for each other, this goes beyond the physical things. I want to challenge you to be the best that attracts the best.

Thank you.

THINKING OUTSIDE THE BOX!!!




If you hang around God He will cause you to think outside the box. If you are going to be a leader you need to go somewhere no one has gone, do something that no one has done. To think outside the box you need to do something that attracts criticism. I need to let you know that God is ready to break some rules to make you outstanding, if you partner with Him.

Creativity begins in your thought life. If you are bound in your thinking you will fail to be creative. When you don’t do things the way others have done them you are controversial. Until you are seen as controversial, you have not yet begun to make your mark in history. If you are going to be a leader you need to go somewhere no one has gone and do something that no one has done and to understand that criticism is not necessarily a crisis but it can often be a gate way that can open up a new dimension of thinking if you will dare to be different. 

I encourage that if you hang around God he will cause you to think outside the box. God’s thinking is what causes his word to have power; his word has power based on his thoughts. If you will ever get around God he will affect how you think, how you function and how you feel.
Everything that we call tangible things began in the thought life of somebody’s mind, the invention of the car begun as a thought in somebody’s mind. I sincerely agree that thinking is the first step to revolution in our lives. If you are still thinking like you are thinking, how would your world turn out?

If anyone will think outside the box you must first get out of the box. If you can think like God then you can see like God and when you see like God you become like God. You cannot think like you’ve been thinking and expect uncommon result. Ask yourself; if I keep thinking like I do what difference would I make in my world.

I dare you to start thinking like you are out of this world, see beyond your world, and see what has not being as though they were. Working outside the box takes faith; you need yourself in a new world. Things won’t change until you change your thinking, move from where you are to where you ought to be.

THE MYSTERY OF NATIONAL TRANSFORMATION




 

A reasonable man adapts himself to the world, the unreasonable man tries to adapt the world to himself, but the most reasonable man creates his own world. In my opinion, the rotation of the sphere within which we live is constant; but the content, context, and conduct have drastically changed. The renowned management thinker and strategy innovator, Prof. Gary Hamel, argued and affirmed a fact with which I totally concur- “Change itself has changed!”

Conventional wisdom says that the right government will provide the efficiencies, information, good education, innovation and agility that will sustain and succeed the nation; but before our very eyes, this notion has acutely failed. Developed countries are trying to cut-cost as much as possible, while inflation is relentlessly skyrocketing; terrorism, natural disasters, religious and communal clashes triggered by patriotism has also become common experience.

However, in contrast to the accusing fingers pointing at leaders (positional occupants) as being responsible for most of the predicaments that has befallen nations and industries, I’ll rather argue that insufficient leadership ability is the major problem grappling with our world. Either evolution or revolution, none ever starts with a group, it oft starts with an individual. Leaders emerge, but leadership is emergent. The path to national transformation, as we can see in the 21st century, is personal amelioration.

The socio-economic advancement of nations has denounced the conventional political route, and has become more effective on individuals, but synergized leadership abilities. Both corporate and community development have transcended the capacity and capability of politicians and lawmakers decision, and have become the shared leadership responsibility of every inhabitant of each community or industry.

Prioritizing and Focusing on personal development rather than the wide, complex, and enigmatic national transformation for the emergence of new product, ideas, innovation, technology, industry and national advancement has become more expedient and exigent. The economic boom that countries like America and Europe is thriving on, amidst every other thing, can be easily tied to the success of companies and individuals like Bill Gate (Microsoft), Steve jobs (Apple), Jack Welch (General Electric), Richard Branson (Virgin Airlines), like Intel Corporation, IKEA Furniture, Sears, Coca Cola, IBM and so on.

Our nation is crying out for leaders that model integrity, excellence, compassion and responsibility. This is our right as a people, however, this does not assuredly present us with the trouble-free, economic boom, and secure homeland we solely desire. Government can make policies, produce social infrastructures, and so on, but it is the people that eventually make change happen. The old truth and the new-age reality is that commitment to personal development is a pre-requisite to national development.

It is so pathetic that many of us have lost personal identity in our quest for the retrieval of national identity. My question is, can doing ever take the place of being? We have become driven individuals rather than called individuals. Doing is simply the reflection of our inner core. Who I am should dictate what I do, not the other way round. In other words, we are human beings not human doings. My concern now is not whether Nigeria is 52; my concern is what if a nation like Nigeria cannot change you, would you change the nation? Tell me, what is your contribution to the growth of our nation? As a nation, we are producing more wealth-distributors or consumers, than wealth-creators. This unarguably fact is a proof that Nigeria will never experience NATIONAL TRANSFORMATION without PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION.

While our leaders debate over allocation of resources and whether or not to print more money, I think it will be wise of us, if we truly crave the kind of change we profess, to begin to allocate the resources at our own disposal appropriately. Resources like choice to do the right thing and do things right, decision to vote the right person into office; time allocation to doing things that will position us as a solution provider rather than problem creators; relationships that challenge our potentials, and propel us to maximize out latent potentials.


When extrinsic factors inundates our intrinsic values; Circumstances become our compelling counselors, and our potential to become a world changer is changed by the world. Effectiveness is about “I am, therefore I do.” not “I do, therefore I am.” I have said all of that to say that personal development is the way, emphatically, the only way to national development. The wealth of every nation is a function of the quality and not the quantity of people living therein. It is not how much of people we have in the government, but how much of people with self-governance.

I strongly believe that personal transformation is the key to national revolution. The problem of our Nation is not about National influence but Personal influence. I hope we can focus more on the seed and not the fruit; when we pray for the seeds, the fruits can get better. Naija o ni baje o!!!